Current Mood:  indescribable
Nov 5, 2004
1922. Canada was just over 50 years old. William Lyon Mackenzie King was Canada’s 10th Prime Minister.
Aug 18 1922, John Arthur Coulsey was born in Vawn, SK. We all know him as Jack. Vawn was, and still is, a small prairie town, midway between Lloydminster and North Battleford; just east of the border with Alberta.
At about 4 years of age, Jack was to become an Uncle. He watched his mom knitting a baby shirt. He was told that, when the baby came that would wear the shirt, he would be an Uncle. He pondered a bit and said "Uncle to a shirt?" That name stuck; Jack’s brother-in law, Bill, even called him "Uncle to a shirt" on occasion.
When Jack was only 7, The Great Depression began and it dominated world economics until the War began. They were difficult years; a drought and economic recession. 1929 – 1941.
Jack was only 17 when the Second World War began: Sept 1, 1939, Germany invaded Poland. Canada was over-seas as early as 1941 in the Pacific and the siege of Hong Kong and we remained at war until to Sept 2, 1945 when Japan finally surrendered.
Jack enlisted in the Canadian Military on June 18 1942 just shy of the age of 20. He achieved the rank of corporal. He served in Canada and he received the Canadian Volunteer Service Medal. He served in stations like Camp Borden, ON, a 20,000 acre base that played an important role during WWII in the training of more than 200,000 soldiers who passed through the camp. While there, his leaves seemed to entail trips to Buffalo NY to find “trouble.” He was discharged by demobilization, nine months after the war ended, on May 9 1946. Jack wasn’t yet 24.
Jack struck some people, at least in later years, as overly cautious and shy; no driving in snow; avoided more than 3 people at dinner. Any excuse to avoid being too social or in crowds. I’m just not sure why everyone blushes talking about the trips to Buffalo.
He lived in what is now Burnaby where he met, courted, and eventually proposed to Joan Gerrard at his sister Sybil’s house. There were a few friends there and it was very traditional; down on one knee, the whole post card scene.
Jack was 27 when, on July 22 1950, they were married at Joan’s Parent’s home in Lockdale, (now part of Burnaby). As fancy as it gets, complete with music piped out the bathroom window. Lots of friends and family were there. Jack, Joan's father Harry, and her brother, John, got stinking drunk.
They honeymooned in Penticton at some classy digs that even threw in bedbugs. It was an interesting beginning to what Joan says were a great 54 years and she would not trade them for the world.
Jack was 28 when Dave was born June 21, 1951. Dave grew up mostly in Port Moody. Things were quiet and predictable. The family also lived in Burnaby, New West, and Port Moody. They eventually moved to Chilliwack.
Employment – Jack was a postman, a delivery driver for with a dry cleaner, worked in a service station, and owned service station. After the move to Chilliwack, he worked at CFB Chilliwack in stores from 1973-85.
Dave was married Oct 24, 1978 and suddenly, Jack had a second child. Jack and Joan were actually introduced to Bev once before the wedding. But it was only once, I think.
Jack’s 1st grandchild, Michelle, was born Apr 27, 1979 and Jack had his second “infant.” It took him 6 months before he’d hold her because, “Oh no, that’s a baby; they break.” And on the day he finally held her, her name was Chicken. It still is.
That is a major theme of the people jack cared for; Jack had nick names for them.
- His wife, Joan - Charlie horse
- Granddaughter, Michelle - Chicken
- Granddaughter, Jackie was papa’s Jack
- Granddaughter, Bonnie - Bunnie rabbit.
- Jack’s sister Grace - Albert.
- His sister-in-law, Sybil - Billy
- Sybil’s hubby, Ted – Fudder
- Dave and Bev, early on, while Dave had a full beard and Bev was expecting Michelle, the name was Ruff and Puff.
- Always called children "critters" (i.e., “Now, who is this little critter?” he'd ask).
The grand kids called him papa, except when Bunnie Rabbit called him Jack Rabbit. They fought to be near him, to break their New Years’ cracker with him, and to compete to see who could sit next to him at dinner. If there was a reason for bows or ribbons, they ended up on Jacks head. Jack had a crowd he liked being in the middle of.
Jack liked to give weird gifts. Bob Conners, Jack’s nephew, recalls a pet rock they hunted down and domesticated. Its mostly house trained, at least. Bonnie Coulsey, Jack’s granddaughter, points at her 16th birthday. He gave her a 3 foot large blow up octopus sprinkler. She still has it at 22. Even odder was when Jack called and asked if she wanted his cocks. They are actually rooster placemats, but he didn't tell her that part.
Jack was reliable. Punctual. Bob, Jacks nephew, recounted how Jack drove to and from the cancer clinic when he needed to go. After driving and waiting, he says, “Jack even made sure I got fed before I went home.”
Retirement came in 1985 at the age of 63. A quiet life near his son, the family. Frequent visits and letting the grandkids come for the night. Imagine how the grand kids saw it: the WHOLE night with your favorite people and no competition. No one ever refused a sleep over invite.
Jack was quiet, confident, remarkably calm, straight forward and honest. He could make you feel safer with just a wink and a bit of a smile. He could call you names and make you feel better. He’d give you something that no one else would even consider, he’d make a dirty joke, and they’d be treasured.
Canada is now 137 years old; we’ve seen our 21st Prime Minister. We’ve been free of war for almost 60 years. None of our recessions have compared with the 30’s.
Jack Coulsey, husband, father, papa, and friend, left us October 31, 2004 at the age of 82. He is missed. He will continue to be missed. |